16 May Why Does Rejection Hurt So Deeply? Part 2
We have all experienced rejection at some point in our lives. You may have experienced rejection as a child, as a teen or even now as an adult. Once the root of rejection takes hold, it can affect how we communicate with others, it can affect our relationships with our family and friends; it can stop the promise of a relationship with someone of the opposite sex because we don’t want to get hurt, so we end the relationship before it has a chance to begin.
Rejection wreaks havoc on our self-esteem and can be one of the reasons why some women (and men) fall into unhealthy relationships and the only way they feel loved is by entering into a sexual relationship. Rejection can also be the reason why individuals allow abuse to continue. Our basic needs are satisfied by love, respect, acceptance and security, but the root of rejection hinders us from receiving these benefits because we are so desperate for love.
There are 5 main causes of rejection:
- Rejection in the womb-Children can suffer rejection in the womb; this is because they are able to perceive their Mother’s emotional issues.
- Rejection during childhood-A child’s sense of security is developed during the first six years of life. During this time, the child develops his or hers values and identity. The following can be causes of rejection in childhood: A lack of attention and care from the parents, adoption, comparison of siblings, abandonment, physical/sexual abuse, a broken home or divorce.
- Rejection during adolescence-A child in his/her teenage years may experience different types of rejection, either through excessive discipline, mental/physical abuse, family poverty or pushing children beyond their abilities.
- Rejection during adulthood-Financial issues, isolation from family and friends
- Rejection during marriage-Death of a spouse, divorce, infidelity/physical abuse
The good news is that in spite of the causes, we can be set free! The first step is to forgive those who have rejected you; include every person at any stage of your life. The second step is to release the fear of rejection and last but not least, identify the void left in your life and ask God to fill it.
It’s time that you stop allowing the shadows of your past to hinder your future! Begin to declare out loud that you are set free and speak freedom over your life on a daily basis…some days will be better than others, but change will come!
From my heart to yours,