15 May Why Does Rejection Hurt So Deeply? Part 1
Rejection is one of the main causes of bondage. It attacks the essence of who we are and chips away at our self esteem and emotions. God never wants us to feel rejected or abandoned. Ephesians 3:19 reads, “And to know the love of Christ, which surpasses knowledge, that ye might be fulfilled with all the fullness of God.” Without being rooted and grounded in the love and acceptance of God, we cannot experience the fullness of God in our lives.
Some individuals have allowed rejection to take root due to an experience or even one singular emotion they felt. For others, the root of rejection was planted so long ago, they may find it hard to identify it.
I shared in one of my blog posts the moment I identified the root of my rejection which was based on an emotion that I felt (if you haven’t read it, search “The Wilderness of Rejection”…it will bless you.) It was critical that I understood how rejection and hurt emotions affected my life. This is what I learned:
- Rejection affects our relationships with others-We are the product of our past experiences, so pain suffered from the past–whether it was your experience as a child; in your former dating relationship/marriage or even unhealthy friendships, impacts the way we react to a given situation.
- Rejection can hinder our faith-If you allow yourself to be led by your emotions, it is difficult to believe the Word of God because you are always looking to base your faith on that which is seen and tangible (real.) The wounds of the past impact our present and can rob you of true happiness.
So then, how do we deal with our hurt emotions?
- Face the Truth– It is painful to face the truth, but you must keep in mind that the door through which the pain once entered your life, is the same door through which it must depart. (John 8:32 “And you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”)
- Confess the Hurt-James 5:16 says, “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”
- Forgive–Forgiveness is not an emotion; it is a decision. Therefore, forgive those who have offended you. Mark 11:25 reads, “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in Heaven may also forgive you of your trespasses.”
- Practice Self-Control-Decide once and for all to walk according to the Spirit and not according to emotions. Galatians 5:16 reads, “I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh.”
- Make a Commitment-A true commitment means that you no longer live under the direction of your emotions, but according to the principles of the Word of God.
- Give priority to the leading of the Holy Spirit-When your mind is renewed, the will is surrendered.
- Allow your mind to be renewed-And how do you do that? By constantly feeding it with the Word of God. Your times of meditation and studying the Word is key. Romans 12:2 reads, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.
There is much more to this blog post, so be sure to read Part 2 on tomorrow morning as I share the five main causes of rejection.
It’s time to allow God to heal your emotions and provide restoration so that the wounds from the past are no longer present!
From my heart to yours,