29 Jun Checkmate: Your Wife Is A Reflection Of You
I learn a lot by watching and listening to people. Their body language tells a story; their communication or lack thereof tells their secrets, shows their insecurities and spotlights their strengths.
My body language will let you know if I like you or not. I don’t even try to hide it. I am also the Queen of Confrontation and the Princess of Pettiness. I recognize that these character flaws do not reflect the better part of who I am and if you knew me 3 years ago, you would agree that I have gotten a lot better (it was ugly ya’ll.) I knew I had attitudinal (it’s a word) issues because my Dad checked me on them and checked me good…more than once. Until I get married, my Dad is my covering. I carry his last name, so who I am and everything I do is a reflection of him. Yes, I’m my own person—I get that. But, you know how we do “Girllll, she is a mess! Her parents aren’t like that, she was raised better.” You know that’s how we talk about folks.
The same holds true to spouses. I am a firm believer that wives are a reflection of their husbands; Men, please choose carefully and prayerfully. In addition, if more than one person mentions her bad attitude and how she treats people, please listen. It’s never a one time situation.
I love watching my Mom, she is so gracious and loving. If she doesn’t care for someone, you would never know it. She still speaks, smiles and is cordial with absolutely no phoniness attached. That is not my testimony honey. I have mastered the art of ignoring people I don’t particularly like (you know I’m going to keep it all the way honest) and it’s probably best that you don’t ask me what my issue is with you because I will tell you and it won’t be nothin’ nice. #fixitJesus
Now, don’t get me wrong…my Mom is not a doormat. She will get you straight if she needs to, but it is always done in love. Always. So much so that when you reflect on what she said, you can’t even be mad. I strive to be like her one day. #helpmeHolyGhost
My mother is a true reflection of my father. They are both gracious, kind, loving, forgiving and cordial. Where he is weak, she is strong and vice versa. They choose to walk in harmony with one another.
Some couples don’t understand the concept of walking in harmony with one another. Let me explain further…if a wife is easily jealous, then she is reflecting a part of her husband’s character that is flawed. Perhaps he flirts too much, is overly friendly with the opposite sex (texting, emails, etc.) or has even done something that has caused distrust. She’s not jealous because she’s crazy, she’s jealous because you don’t respect her.
Some couples don’t understand the concept of mutual respect. If he speaks, you should too. If he asks you not to do something (for good reason), don’t do it. If he forgives, you should too as unforgiveness will only drive a wedge between you two. If he’s gracious, you should be too and the list goes on.
If I ever get married again, I know he will be kind, gracious, loving, forgiving. I would never want the people who know him to ever wonder or be confused about why he chose me. I want to represent my man well and be the purest reflection of him. I’ve got some work to do.
From my heart to yours,